When we got the new dishwasher 5 years ago, the placement of the cutlery tray in it was pretty much the same as in the old one. Yet the cutlery comes out spottier than it did in the old version. Someone told George, and he believed this person, that we need to arrange the knives… Continue reading Sometimes It’s the Little Things
In a message to my art teacher, I wrote, “So I came in today after class and looked at the half-empty maple right outside the front, and it inspired me to draw. I could clearly see the clumps. I took a photo with my iPad and the clumps all vanished. So now I really get… Continue reading Seeing Differently
It can be rare to experience any sign of affection: holding hands, a loving touch. So when I reach out to my sister and her immediate spontaneous response is a loving word or phrase, I burst into tears.
Visual perspective taking works more than one way. From my book: “While sitting at the breakfast table, George asked, “What kind of bird is that on the railing?” My answer was, “I can’t see it from this chair.” This conversation has repeated dozens of times over the years. I still can’t see that spot from… Continue reading Visual Perspective Taking
This article is for women who suspect they have an AS husband and are looking for information or validation. It is also helpful for professionals, families and friends who want to understand how marriage between a neuro-typical woman and a man with Asperger’s Syndrome is different than other marriages. Many couples going into NT-AS marriages… Continue reading AS-NT Marriage in a Nutshell
Well, the next step may be finding a way to live a little less independently of each other. Not that I’d like to share interests, but perhaps find ways to see this marriage as more of a partnership. George and I assist each other daily and with great caring and love. What has been missing is… Continue reading Partnership – The Next Step
How long has it been since you’ve been able to sit on the front deck and enjoy a cup of coffee? Just sit? Just enjoy the coffee? Years of changing rules, along with the constant drumbeat of blame and criticism lead us so far away from our own easy selves that we lose sight of… Continue reading Dropping Our Guard